There it was again, staring back at me as if taunting me, loudly proclaiming that I wasn't good enough. I should just give up. Quit! And for about three hours, that is exactly what I did. I moped, moaned, sulked, and cried. Then, essentially – I threw up my hands and gave up!That little pity party came shortly after reading a book from a fellow writer friend of mine who is extremely talented and has a true way with words. Yet, instead of being ever so proud of her and applauding her, I found my envious heart longing to be like her! I yearned so badly for her social media following, her skills, and her amazing way with words that called every one of her raving fans to the edge of their seats, waiting in anticipation for her next book to drop. Ugh!When my husband came home that evening, he found me making dinner with a serious and outwardly angry passion, so he cautiously placed down his briefcase, didn't say a word, and walked right on by. Let's just say he already knew it had been a day, so he bypassed his usual hug and went straight to the bedroom to change from his work clothes.Grr. Comparisons are the worst! Not only do they rob us of the gifts God has so graciously given us to share with others, but they put up walls between the ones we love.The truth is that, in some ways, comparison can be healthy if we use it to grow, refine, tweak, and improve our skills. Yet, on the other hand (and most of the time), we end up comparing our calling, essentially getting in our own way and hindering the mission God created us to do (Romans 12:6)!Thankfully, after dinner, my husband called out my glaringly obvious blind spot. While his words stung a bit, I was able to somewhat humble myself before God with my gaping heart, asking for areas in which I needed to grow.Not only that but a few weeks later, I was given the sweet opportunity to meet with my precious and very talented writer friend for lunch and genuinely applaud her for her great work while also seeking her forgiveness because I openly shared my secret envy. Her gentle response was all I needed to be reminded that grace really can run freely; that heavy burden of comparison became oh so light that day!So, maybe you struggle in this area, too. Well, you are not alone. But, friend, let's address the elephant in the room. We need to understand how unhealthy comparison (as I mentioned in the beginning) can stifle your calling. And, then, let's find a means to squelch it and seek grace. In other words, get you back to embracing your calling and living with purpose, glorying God!
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