Homeschooling Kids Who Grow Into Your Best Friends and Co-Laborers

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When I started homeschooling, my focus was pretty straightforward: teach the basics—math, reading, and writing. Little did I know, God had something far greater in store. Fast forward to today, and I’m sitting beside my son, co-writing Breath of Bones. That moment was not on my lesson plan, but it turned out to be one of the most rewarding experiences of my life. What began as a journey in education blossomed into something much deeper—my children are no longer just my students. They’ve grown into my best friends and co-laborers.

The Beauty of Growing Together

Homeschooling has given me the unique privilege of watching my kids grow into incredible human beings. We’ve spent countless hours learning, laughing, and navigating life’s ups and downs together. Those moments—whether around the kitchen table with math books or on the couch reading aloud—have forged bonds that time only deepens.

Even as they’ve grown into adults, our relationship continues to thrive. Now, they’re not just my kids—they’re my companions in creativity, my partners in prayer, and often, my biggest cheerleaders. Homeschooling gave us the gift of time together, and the relationships we built during those years have become the foundation for a lifetime of friendship.

A Picture of Partnership in Breath of Bones

One of the most beautiful depictions of partnership I’ve written is in Breath of Bones, through the characters Kateřina and Josef. Their bond, tested through adversity, is a reflection of the kind of relationships we can cultivate with our children—faithful, loving, and supportive. God often places the most loyal companions right in our own families, blessing us with the opportunity to journey through life together.

How to Homeschool for Deeper Connection

If you’re a homeschool parent, you might be wondering how to nurture these kinds of relationships. Here are some tips that have worked for me:

1. Prioritize Quality Time

Life can get busy, but the relationships we build with our children are worth the investment. Spend time doing activities you all enjoy—playing board games, going for walks, or just sitting down for heartfelt conversations. These shared moments create trust and closeness.

• Try This: Set aside one evening a week for a family activity everyone loves.

2. Involve Them in Your Passions

When you share your interests with your children, you invite them into your world and show them how much you value their presence. For us, it was writing Breath of Bones together. Not only did it strengthen our bond, but it also gave us memories to treasure forever.

• Try This: Invite your children to join you in a hobby or project you’re passionate about, even if it’s something as simple as baking or gardening.

3. Cultivate Open Communication

Encourage your children to share their thoughts and feelings with you. Listen without judgment and offer guidance when they need it. This creates a foundation of trust and mutual respect that will carry into adulthood.

• Try This: Create a family journal where everyone can write notes to each other. It’s a safe and creative way to keep communication open.

Rooted in Scripture

Proverbs 17:17 says, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.” 

The Bible reminds us of the importance of strong relationships. This verse highlights the enduring nature of true friendship and the steadfast support we can offer one another—especially within our families.

A Prayer for Homeschool Families

Dear Heavenly Father,
Thank You for the incredible blessing of homeschooling and the opportunity to build strong, lasting bonds with our children. Help us cherish these moments and nurture our relationships with love, patience, and understanding. May our homes be filled with joy, learning, and mutual respect. Guide us as we strive to be faithful companions on our children’s journeys, just as You are with us. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Reflection Questions

1. How can you create more quality time with your children in your homeschooling routine?
2. What interests or hobbies can you share with your children to strengthen your bond?
3. How can you encourage open and honest communication with your children to build trust and mutual respect?

Homeschooling isn’t just about teaching subjects—it’s about nurturing relationships. It’s about walking alongside our kids as they grow into who God created them to be, and in the process, discovering that they aren’t just students; they’re lifelong friends and co-laborers. Together, we can embrace the joy in everyday moments, celebrate the strength in our bonds, and rest in the knowledge that God’s hand is guiding us every step of the way.

Call to Action: What’s one way homeschooling has deepened your relationship with your children? Share your story in the comments—I’d love to celebrate with you!

~Tricia

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