Sex, Love, and God’s Best: What You Need to Know

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Preparing for Important Conversations

Dear Parents,

As parents, we want the best for our children—spiritually, emotionally, and physically. We guide them in their education, their friendships, and their faith, but one of the most critical areas we must prepare them for is relationships and sexual health.

Our culture sends mixed messages about love, dating, and intimacy. The world normalizes casual relationships, but God calls us to something greater—intentional love, respect, and purity. Talking about these topics can feel overwhelming, but avoiding the conversation leaves our children to figure it out on their own—often influenced by media, peers, or misinformation.

This blog provides a biblical perspective on relationships and sexual integrity, helping young people make wise choices before they find themselves in high-pressure situations. You can share this information directly with your child or use it as a guide for meaningful conversations at home.

Here’s how to use this resource:
✔ Read it yourself and decide what key points you’d like to emphasize.
✔ Share the blog with your child and encourage them to reflect on the concepts.
✔ Use it as a starting point for open, judgment-free discussions about their thoughts, questions, and concerns.
✔ Emphasize that these discussions aren’t about shame or fear, but about God’s best plan for their future.

By being proactive, we can help our children navigate relationships with wisdom, confidence, and a deep understanding of their worth in Christ.

Praying for you as you walk this journey together!
💙 With grace, wisdom, and encouragement,
Tricia Goyer

Sex, Love, and God’s Best:
What You Need to Know

“Do not awaken love before it is time.” – Song of Solomon 8:4

Let’s talk about something that’s often whispered about, joked about, or completely ignored—sex. Our culture is loud when it comes to relationships, intimacy, and desire. Movies, music, books, and social media flood our minds with messages about what love should look like. But what if we’ve been looking in the wrong places for the right answers?

Here’s the truth: Sex is not bad. In fact, God created it! It’s a beautiful and sacred part of His design. But like all good things, it’s meant to be used in the right way, at the right time.

God’s Plan for Love and Sex

From the very beginning, God had a plan for relationships. He created man and woman, telling them to “be fruitful and multiply” (Genesis 1:28). Sex is a gift, meant to bring joy and intimacy within the safe, loving commitment of marriage. It’s not something shameful or dirty—it’s something holy and good.

But here’s where we often get it wrong: our hearts awaken before the right time.

The world pushes us toward instant gratification. Lust is marketed as love. Boundaries are seen as restrictions instead of protection. And because we’re human, we often make decisions based on emotions rather than wisdom.

The Slippery Slope: When Love Awakens Too Soon

We don’t usually wake up one day and decide to cross the line—it happens gradually. A little compromise here, a little excuse there. Before we know it, we’re further than we ever intended to go.

That’s why boundaries matter.
That’s why wisdom matters.
That’s why knowing God’s best matters.

Maybe you’ve heard the phrase, “Everything but sex is okay.” The problem? One thing leads to another. The more we allow, the more we accept. The more we accept, the harder it is to stop. It’s a slippery slope.

The Consequences of Rushing Ahead

Here’s something no one likes to talk about—sex isn’t just physical. It connects us emotionally and spiritually. That’s why God asks us to wait—because the consequences are real.

• Pregnancy happens. The only way to guarantee it won’t? Abstinence.
• STDs happen. And they don’t require intercourse—just physical contact.
• Heartbreak happens. Giving your body to someone who doesn’t commit to your heart leaves scars.
• Guilt happens. And sometimes, it weighs heavier than we expected.

Respect, Consent, and Real Love

Love isn’t manipulation. Love isn’t pressure. Love isn’t convincing someone to do something they’re uncomfortable with.

Real love respects boundaries.
Real love honors the other person’s heart and future.
Real love waits.

If you ever feel like you need to hide something from your parents, pastor, or trusted adults—that’s a sign. Your conscience is telling you something. Listen to it.

What About Sexual Abuse?

If your purity was taken from you, hear this: IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.

Sadly, many people have been abused or forced into situations against their will. If that’s you, know that God sees you. He grieves with you. And He wants to bring healing.

You are not broken.
You are not dirty.
You are not unworthy of love.

Please reach out to someone—a parent, pastor, counselor—someone who can walk with you toward healing. Your story does not end in shame.

Purity in a Digital World

One quick note about social media: DO NOT SEND OR ASK FOR PHOTOS.

It might feel harmless in the moment. It might feel exciting. But once something is out there, you can’t take it back. Even if someone promises to keep it private, you have no control over what happens next.

Protect yourself.
Protect your future.
Your worth is not found in how much skin you show—it’s found in Christ.

Can We Start Over?

Maybe you’ve already crossed lines you regret. Maybe you’ve ignored wisdom in the past. Maybe you feel like it’s too late for you.

It’s not.

God is a God of new beginnings. He doesn’t look at you with shame—He looks at you with love.

“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” – 1 John 1:9

Whether you’re waiting for marriage or looking for a fresh start, God’s grace is enough.

A Final Word: Choosing God’s Best

At the end of the day, this isn’t just about rules—it’s about freedom.

God’s plan for sex isn’t about keeping you from something fun. It’s about protecting you for something better.

• Wait because you are worth it.
• Wait because love isn’t meant to be rushed.
• Wait because God’s best is always worth the wait.

And if you didn’t wait? Start fresh today. God’s grace is bigger than your past.

Let’s commit to walking in wisdom, choosing God’s best, and honoring the gift of love—in His time, in His way.

Resources

Praying for Your Future Husband is perfect for women of all ages who are dreaming about “The One.” God has a beautiful romance prepared for you. Prayer is the key to unlocking the love story … with your future husband and with God, the lover of your soul.

Before You Meet Your Future Husband focuses on three areas you, as a young woman, need to address in preparing for marriage:

• your heart—nurturing a place where healthy love can grow
• your head—realigning your thoughts with biblical truth
• your hands—learning to make the most of your God-given potential

This uplifting, interactive devotional helps you approach dating from a place of peace and strength, whether you’re in a relationship now or simply hope to be married one day. With a focus on your own transformation, Before You Meet Your Future Husband offers biblical guidance, real-life stories, thought-provoking questions, and intentional prayers to help you prepare now for the future God has in store for you.